Conditions
Anger Issues
I do not offer anger management. In my opinion, managing anger is not our end goal. I support my clients so they do not feel angry, aggressive or fly into a rage.
Conditions
Anger Issues
I do not offer anger management. In my opinion, managing anger is not our end goal. I support my clients so they do not feel angry, aggressive or fly into a rage.
Why just manage anger when you can make permanent cognitive changes so you don’t feel angry in the first place?
In my opinion, managing anger is not our end goal. I help my clients make changes in the brain so they do not get triggered and respond with anger, aggression or fly into a rage; in other words there will be no misplaced anger in the first place.
How does your anger manifest?
Anger has various ways of manifesting. You may find yourself fuming quietly, you may be the kind of person that shows rage to others or you may be passively aggressive. You may be unhappy with so many things in your life and your anger shows as constant blame and criticism. Which ever way your anger manifests I can help you to feel completely different
Why so angry?
As we go through our lives we form limiting beliefs about ourselves (‘I am a failure’, ‘I am not worthy’, ‘I am stupid’, ‘I am not lovable’ and others) . These beliefs may not be fact, but our mind accepts them as true simply because our cognition is limited as young children. Before the age of 7 our minds process incoming information in a nominal sense meaning we think only in terms of it’s good OR bad, right OR wrong, OK or not OK. Reasoning and rationalizing is limited and inaccurate which means our minds are likely to miscalculate information, and because we are hard wired to be fearful or wary, the mind will err on the side of caution and process events as a threat even if they are not.
So when your Mum shouts at you in front of your friends your mind may formulate the belief ‘I am not lovable’, or your teacher belittles you in front of your peers, your mind may formulate the belief ‘I am stupid’. These aren’t true of course but your mind believes it to be so. Our mind also is hard wired to operate on a ‘I must be approved of’ level in order to survive so when we experience things that alert us that we are not approved of or remind us of our limiting belief then we go into survival mode, into defence and we use anger in order to do that.
